Getting out of fear, and accessing needs and core emotions, is foundational to satisfying and lasting relationships. The most important relationship needs – belonging, safety, worthiness, acceptance, access and response – are ‘hardwired’ into all human beings.

 

These hardwired needs (known as attachment needs) really do drive much of your ‘relationship dance’ but can be slower to perceive, and so learning to do so, together as a couple, brings security to your bond. It is in the ‘here we go again’ moments of disconnection that these needs are calling out and asking us to respond differently.

 

Al uses the evidence-based framework of Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy (EFCT) to help couples arrest the conflict cycle, access important needs, and enact them to one another. Restructuring your bond is achieved collaboratively, and you can each learn to notice and own your part in de-escalating and then signalling important needs that build a lasting secure bond. With a securely attached bond, challenging decisions (such as interstate moves, career changes, having children, interacting with extended family) are more readily achieved with a newfound trust that ‘my partner understands me and has got my back’.  

 

This therapeutic process is suitable for most couples.

 

Where significant unresolved trauma, complex mental health, addiction or sustained infidelity are present, Al will work differently – at least at first – in order to help couples achieve an important foundation for future attachment-based work.

 

Al is ready and willing to discuss any further questions you may have about this therapeutic process, prior to your first session.

 

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